Handwritten letters and Gifts (unasked for)

Time: 9:11am
Feeling: very calm.

I was supposed to write on Monday, but I was a bit down. So, here I am, writing. I didn't plan to talk about this topic today, but someone wanted me to. So here it is. Plus I noticed more people read about relationships than other areas on this blog. Anyhoo, let's go.

I love letters. The idea of them, the reality of them. I just love letters. I think they are a very personal way of communicating. I also like them because, if kept well, they can be read many years down the line, and the couple would have silent happy tears rolling down their cheeks. Every cute text I've ever gotten from the time we started talking till now has been written in a book, and I like that I can easily open a book and find them all there, and they've not gotten lost in the sea of other texts. I can just imagine us reading the book 50 years down the line, or this book even outliving us.

I also love small notes, could be because I like writing, or because I'm a mushy romantic at heart. I intend to write small notes my husband wakes up to every day or comes home to, whichever one happens, but I intend to do it every day. It could also be because I am a very expressive person.

Either way, I love letters. Writing them and receiving them. And I am quite blessed to have someone who likes letters too! How amazeballs!

You don't have to be so much of a writer to write letters, you don't even need to have a pressing issue in your heart that needs to be said, all you need is love, ink, and paper. You also don't need to be far away from your partner. Like they say, 'it's the little things that matter'. It's a sure way to make your partner feel loved.

Now to gifts unasked for. Not everyone likes asking for stuff. I do not like it, and I know a couple of people that just find it difficult to ask their partners for stuff, and they say a closed mouth is a closed destiny LOL, and because we don't like asking, we throw hints around. The question is do you catch the hint?

Now, I'm an advocate for saying what you want in a relationship, and I really don't expect the other person to become psychic all of a sudden, but sometimes, you want the other person to be a bit more aware and sensitive of your needs, in this case, wants. As usual, I'm not only talking on behalf of us girls, I'm talking for the boys too. Boys may not throw obvious hints around, but they drop hints. When a girl puts up a picture of a cute pair of shoes, or bags and puts the emoji with love eyes, hint. When she mentions something mid convo more than twice, hint. When she puts up something and captions it 'I want' what bigger hint do you need?

If you have money, surprise bae with it, and if you don't, save up for it or buy something else you know the person would like, or you can even say something like "I wish I could get it for you".  It just points to how aware of the person's needs you are.

You don't have to wait before you're asked to give a gift, otherwise, the only time you'll be giving is probably once or twice a year which basically sucks.

TBH, it's always the smallest things.

Much love,
Fifi.