Fifi's diary

Hi guys, it's been a minute, but we have another teen here.  Yaay!!! Okayy, our next guest is a really good friend of mine. Simi's super outspoken and absolutely fun to be with. She's fourteen years old, enjoys singing and dancing, and doesn't think feminism is as great as people think it is.  She'd also like to think she's a pretty good actress. I'm pretty sure you'd enjoy this session as much as I did. Let's dive in. What is the festive period like for you? I feel this festive period will be awesome for me, because we have a family tradition where we all gather to celebrate Christmas and new year together. I'm really excited about it. Who/ What motivates you? My mother. She motivates me, She tries her best to provide all that I need, and the least I can do is make her proud. Are you looking forward to being an adult?  Really, I'm not. The world seems to be so hard on adults, and I'm just not ready to go out into th

Feeling : Loved Time: 1:48 pm Growth is a word that's been at the back of my mind for a while now. Some days ago, my brother was telling me about how he felt he hadn't learnt so much in this one year of guitar training; he felt he should have been better. He was downloading some of his you tube videos, and he was like, "I should be this good already'. I reminded him that those ones were probably taught by physical teachers and have been at it for years and years. I told him that as far as I was concerned, I think he has come such a long way. His constant dedication and commitment to getting better is worthy of note. He has no teacher, mind you. I told him every one around him has clearly seen the growth in him, and he'll get better as years go by. I have been feeling this way of late, seeing everyone else do stuff, genuinely celebrating their growth, and clearly despising mine, but we all learn. It's easier to encourage someone else. It's easi

Feeling: sleepy  Time: 2:20 pm The year has almost come to an end. Wow! I remember the beginning of this year. Quite a lot has happened, and I'm thankful for how far I have come. I'm thankful for a lot of things. I've cried a lot this year, but I have smiled and laughed way way way more than I have cried. Every year has different trials, different things that test your strength, your beliefs your faith... Some years are harder than others. On reflection, 2016-2018 have had differently themed tests, passed some, failed some, in all, I have come out wiser, and I am still on the mission of being a strong woman in every sense of the phrase. I believe it's important to reflect on things, not only yearly; but daily, hourly, weekly. Only makes one wiser. I'm thankful for a lot of things. I am thankful because I believe all things are working together for my good regardless of how bleak things may seem right now. I am super thankful for this blog, my litt

Feeling: Sleepy Time: 11:43 am Holaa!! it feels like it's been ages... I'm watching a very silly movie with my brother, it's so cheesy, so much that we are predicting everything, and we are getting it right. Anywhos, yesterday, while we were making dinner, my sister and I were awwing and oohing at  Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas' wedding photos . They are so pretty! Mom had to ask us why we were squealing. Later at night, as we were slowly drifting off to sleep, we were talking about what Nick said about really knowing and dating her for 5 months and then just knowing they were right for each other. I have heard of shorter dating periods. 3-4 months, and I must say, I am very intrigued whenever I hear such stories. Some of these people last so long; they never divorce,  while some 'grow out of love'. Different strokes for different folks, you know. While there's absolutely not one size fits all rule for dating, I generally wouldn't advice

Feeling: super lazy Time: 1:25pm Hey y'all, how's your week going? Just made some cookies with my sister. I don't think there's any exciting thing I have coming my way (that I know of). So, I have a few fun things around the internet you might like to read. Enjoy! Who knew you could  fry Okra ? I know about okra being in salad, I know about it being cooked as soup; never heard of it being fried. I guess we learn new stuff every time. Important stuff  you can learn about marriage even as a single person. Awww this is such a  sweet love story  made me smile so wide.  The  first five paragraphs  tugged at my heart's strings. We should learn to celebrate our little victories. She swapped her morning routine  to self care practices and saw changes. I wake up and stay on the bed for an extra hour lol. How to reduce  technology's hold  on your child and even you. My friend sent me  this song  and I loved every bit of it. It's been on repeat

Feeling: Content Time: Started yesterday, ended today. I really think banana cake should be called ... I really think banana bread should be called banana cake or something like that. It's way way easier than the regular bread that requires about an hour of proving in total and proper kneading. I had been wanting to try this out for quite a while now, and I eventually tried it out yesterday and it was perrfeeccttt. My siblings loved it so much. Side note: my first brother, thinks I'm the most adventurous with food, probably after my dad.  Means a lot tehehe. Sister wanted that title though. Okay, this banana bread requires very few ingredients: 3 ripe Bananas 1 1/2 cups of flour 2 Eggs 2 tablespoons of melted margarine 1 teaspoon of Baking powder A pinch of Salt 7 tablespoons of Sugar (up to you, really) Directions. In a bowl, mash three ripe Bananas with a fork, till it's pulpy. In another bowl combine flour, baking powder, salt and sugar and mix.

Feeling: Sleepy Time: 2:32pm Holaa! Buenas tardes. Cómo estaís? (😉) Well, I'm good myself. Just sleepy.  It's the middle of the week. Trust you've been fine so far. I like reading a lot. Not necessarily overly serious stuff.  Just different stuff all around the internet. I have some pretty fun links for you to check out. I may be some type of weird, but having fun links to check out gives me some kind of boost. For instance, if I have a lot of work to do, and I have some interesting stuff to read on the internet, it serves as some kind of incentive for me. Oh! I'm not sure if you remember, but  last week  , I told you I'd try to make these cookies . I did, and my siblings loved them!! Enjoy! This  69 year old man  wants to change his age legally.  Found this funny and weird. Failing is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. Michelle Obama's  interview with Oprah Winfrey  is everything!! Even  six year olds  have a lot to thin

Hola, So, last week we started the series on teenagers, where we chat with them, get to know what's going on in their minds about different things. We hung out with fourteen year old  Marie  who told us about why she doesn't think it's advisable to date anyone at her age. Today, we'll be hanging out with MotherGold who's seventeen years old, a student of Caleb University in Nigeria. She's currently studying International Relations. The first time I met MotherGold, the first thing that really struck me was her very unique name, a plus was that she was quite friendly. Let's dive in! Hi MotherGold, what's a typical Saturday like for you? Um it's a lazy day for me in school, I just watch movie and play, but when I'm home it's a busy day. Who / what motivates you? Well, my dad inspires me. What do you think turning 18 would change for you? Turning 18 will change my way of thinking and behaving. Well, my life generally. H

Feeling: Pissed (coming out of it though) Time: 12:55pm You have probably guessed (with this blog)  that I like journaling a lot. I don't know if it's weird (frankly don't care), but my favorite section of any shopping mall is the stationery section. Gosh! I could live there. I like the cute pens, sparkly pens, highlighters, and most of all cute notepads. I'm a sucker for stuff like that. After this section are the biscuits and chocolates aisles. so darn cute.  I currently own about five (six, technically ) cute notepads. Frankly speaking, I need more. Let me tell you their uses. 1. For personal growth and development.  I don't write in it so often. It was a gift given to me when I turned 20. 2. I use this for Spanish lessons which I've been slacking so badly in. I keep telling myself I should pick it up and be better. Now that I'm publicizing it, I'll be more faithful about it. Perhaps for every blog post, you'll get a little bit

Hi guyssss! If you noticed, I didn't input the 'Feeling' and 'Time' feature today. Well that's because... drum rolls please. I'm starting a new series on the blog!! What's more exciting is the fact that it's all about Teenagers!!!! I don't know if you know, but teenagers are my favorite set of people in the world. So, I decided that we need to get to know teenagers, on a more intimate level. Let's see what they think about different things. Over the next few weeks (or more) we'll be hanging out with teens!!!  How cool is that?! Who knows? This might help you relate better with a teen near you. So, let's get to know our first guest.  I'm super stoked. Her name is COMOE MARIE-CAMILLE and she's 14 years old and a full time fan of Cardi B . I asked her a bunch of questions, some of her answers  made me smile, and some made me think really hard.  Let's dive in. Hi Marie, What's a typical Saturday like for you?

Feeling: Bland  Time: 12:34am I recently saw one funny high school ish movie,  Good kids which was about a  group of friends who claimed they were never invited to parties throughout highschool, hence, their plan for the summer was to say Yes to everything. They did say Yes to everything, they attended all the parties and did all the stuff that students in high school movies do, and some things they shouldn't have done. Of course, they had crazy fun. After I watched it, I was left to think about the kind of person I am. A 'yes' person? Or a 'no' person? So many times we keep being told to learn to say NO without feeling guilt afterwards. I think it's a good thing; Learning to stand your ground ; Learning to say 'No' when you really want to say No. While Yes comes naturally to many people, I also think it's important to know when to say 'Yes'. Like every other thing, there must be some balance. Too many Yes's could ruin you,

Feeling: No right words Time: 11:11am This is just a random post. Last week, while we (my siblings and I)  were making dinner, we were discussing different random things when one of my brothers, the older one asked what we'll do if we were given 30,000 dollars each at this point in our lives. That's a lot of money, and we all delved into what we'd use the money for. My brother was so hilarious, he said everything down to the last dollar. Like he was actually calculating every little thing, we made fun of him 'cos he acted as though he truly expected the money. My sister planned to save hers till she's done with school, so she can travel the world. She'd also give mom a farm, and daddy, some money. Err I can't really remember what my other brother said. Oh oh! he said he'll wait till he's done with school, so he can think about what he'd need it for. He planned to give the 'rents some money too. I told them I'd buy land in Nige

Feeling: Light Time: 9:03am My heart feels really light, and if I were a superstitious person, I'd say something good will happen today. I feel anxious in a good way, like I'm expecting something. Let's see how the day goes. I'll probably give an update at the end of the day; I'll let you guys know if something good truly happened or not. Maybe it's not about me sef. Whew! Okay, I often think about how men are really different from women and how we have so many misunderstandings arising from these differences that seem to pop up everytime. This isn't really about feminism or any of that stuff. One wish of mine is for everyone to come to some understanding, to reach a compromise of some sorts, but I think that as human beings, selflessness isn't really our strongest forte. Side note: I'm growing out my nails. I've read two or three books that talk about the intrinsic differences between a man and a woman. How men are more logical and wom

Feeling: Not quite happy Time: 12:55pm I really don't feel like writing. I'll probably grab a book or sleep after this. There's this weird obligation to show up, but as I often tell myself, this is a 'diary'. Not necessarily private; I choose what I want to share. I am as real as possible. Today, I don't feel like showing up, and I don't feel  the need to pretend, and I think it's okay. I hope you have a beautiful week, I'll be back on Friday, by God's grace. Much love,  Fifi. 

Feeling: At peace Time: 7:17am Okurrr (in case you never knew, yeah, I like cardi B, she's a whole mood). Okay, the truth is, it's not the FEVER video that got me thinking about this whole age issue in relationships. I've been thinking about it since we had rumors of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas being in a relationship. I was stunned! By the time they got engaged, and saw the pictures, I thought it was cute (she doesn't even look older. Such beauty!) Then the FEVER video was released. It 'confirmed' what so many people had been thinking. To be honest, it's none of my business, but it really got me thinking. The video was received with a lot of umm... I wouldn't use the word hate, I'll use disgust.  So many people were disgusted by the idea of Tiwa, an older woman dating Wizkid.  Trust Nigerians to have really strong opinions. I asked myself if I could date a younger man; to be honest, it never ever crossed my mind. Really.  I'd alw

Feeling: Super sleepy Time: 7:13am As you know, by now I talk about almost anything on here. I want to talk about makeup. Yeah, the face thingy. I know it very random and not super serious, but this is a diary, so, why not? Tehehe. I like makeup a lot, but I can't do any by myself to save my life. Can you believe that I can't draw my brows? I mean, I believe it's pretty simple, I've watched tons of YouTube videos, you'd expect me to be a guru by now. Sigh* I used to think I'd come around and eventually learn how to beat my face, but I highly doubt that is happening. I may learn how to draw the brows though. I mean,  that should be as easy as ABC, but for now lip gloss is my go to. I don't even use powder. I just make my hair into a large puff, wear some lip gloss and I'm ready.  Thank God I have naturally trimmed brows, I don't have to brush them or anything. Makes life super easy for me. I was talking about this same topic with my sister

Feeling: Sleepy Time: 3:17pm I'm almost always on my phone. No one complains much though, I mean, why should anyone complain? Anyway, I'd like to let you guys in on some of the apps that keep me glued to my phone. They are in no particular order. WPS OFFICE I really really like this app, because my laptop annoys me. It's super handy. It does everything Microsoft office can do. I like the theme, weirdly. BIBLE My favorite Bible app. I prefer it to My sword, this is a lot more interactive. I used to be crazy about the follow feature. I don't really like it anymore. I love love love that it has devotionals too, not just that, you can choose the devotional  that suits how you feel. You can change the theme as much as you like! TWITTER   Never thought this would happen, but here it is. Happening.  PINTEREST   I love Pinterest. It's like google, but just for pictures. I have many boards on Pinterest. I know what I want my h

Feeling: Hungry Time: 1:13p.m I don't know how to start this, it's about kindness, but somehow I don't know how to articulate my words, and it's weird. I could understand if I was about to talk, but I want to write, and I don't know how to explain myself. It could be because it's something so simple, yet so complicated. I don't know. It's sad that many of us have lost a grip on kindness. It's sad. We go on social media and type out whatever comes into our minds.  We like this freedom of speech thingy we have going on, so that we speak whatever we think without using filters. Speak, because, I'm really interested in talking about kind words and how far away they are from our lips. Even the instagram app has the filter feature to make a picture more appealing, to make the picture flawless. Since I can't really articulate my words properly, I may just write some points on how we can embrace kind words and end there. Maybe it's

Feeling: sigh* Time: 5:49pm It's amazing. Really amazing, how humans switch. Just like that. One minute you're sad, the next you're happy, or feeling some façade of happiness. Momentuous happiness. Short-lived, because in a little while, after that moment of euphoria, we're brought back to reality. Our reality hits us.  It's saddening. Yesterday night, I was listening to music. I was really happy, I was making videos, and while at it, I felt like a pretender, for about five seconds. I've been trying to analyze that feeling since.  Social media is amazing. People'll rather share the amazing things going on, they'll choose to not share the not so glamorous parts. Everyone is expected to keep up the charade of  "I'm such a happy person living my best life". Now, when someone decides to share the not so beautiful sides, it's either people do not react, they get hated on, or just 0.5% react positively. Now that I think about it

Feeling: Confused (should I go back to bed or not?) Time:7:05pm I've been wanting to talk about this for a week. Not necessarily because of our Independence Day, the state of Nigeria is always on my mind. I very much understand that Nigeria is not where it should be. It feels like we should be at the university level,  but somehow, just somehow we're still in primary six.  Sigh* It's sad. Disheartening, actually. I understand. We pour out our frustrations a lot, and that's okay, I mean, if no one is complaining, then something is wrong, but we know that sometimes, complaints don't do much, they actually worsen the situation. Especially complaints that aren't backed with the right actions. I don't fancy it much when everyone sits back and complains on twitter. You're complaining on twitter but aren't doing much in reality to help our nation, or let's even say your community, if that's too large, let's say your neighbor. Not a li