Is age really just a number in relationships? FEATURED POST
Feeling: At peace
Time: 7:17am
Okurrr (in case you never knew, yeah, I like cardi B, she's a whole mood).
Okay, the truth is, it's not the FEVER video that got me thinking about this whole age issue in relationships. I've been thinking about it since we had rumors of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas being in a relationship. I was stunned! By the time they got engaged, and saw the pictures, I thought it was cute (she doesn't even look older. Such beauty!)
Then the FEVER video was released. It 'confirmed' what so many people had been thinking. To be honest, it's none of my business, but it really got me thinking. The video was received with a lot of umm... I wouldn't use the word hate, I'll use disgust. So many people were disgusted by the idea of Tiwa, an older woman dating Wizkid. Trust Nigerians to have really strong opinions.
I asked myself if I could date a younger man; to be honest, it never ever crossed my mind. Really. I'd always just assumed I'd be with an older man. My first official boyfriend was 7/8 years older than me,I was 17 (I didn't like it much, that was too old for me, but what could I do?) mom said I was dating my grandfather.
There are so many women that find the idea of dating younger men weird. People easily assume the guy has mommy issues especially if the man is a lot younger than the woman.
So I asked a few people, young men and women if they can be in such a relationship and why they think not so many people like the idea of younger men dating younger older women. Let's dive in. *rubs hands in excitement*
Yes of course. I think the majority of people against the idea of young men dating older women are women themselves. Not that there's really any difference but most older women tend to see age as a barrier to anything romantic.
Ayo (M)
Hmm okay, personally, I can date a younger man as long as he’s mature and has common sense. Well, it depends on what “older woman” is. Not like a twenty one year old guy dating a sixty year old woman, that one is outrageous. People might not like the idea because of public acceptance, parent acceptance, and then the particular persons mindset about it.
Tiwa (F)
Yes I can. It actually depends on some factors. The most important, which is her willingness to submit to me in marriage and respect me as the Bible instructs. As regards the reason many are against it,
I believe it revolves around myths and fears. Many have just grown up with that mentality they assimilated from their immediate environment that your wife must be younger. Some have the fear that no matter how gentle the lady is, at some point, that age factor might make her wanna disrespect or not submit to her husband (which is true in some cases). I have however seen a beautiful marriage where the wife is older and many didn't even know until they said it at an event. The man loved his wife so much, and the wife respected him and deferred to him. For much older women, there's the fear of menopause.
Paul (M)
Yes I can, maximum, 2 years difference. I think it's a matter of choice and taste.
Ore (F)
Yes, I can. I think the reason why a lot of people don't want to date older women is the issue of respect, because one if the things that's important to a man is respect. Stripping a man off if his respect is tantamount to raping a man. Some men go for younger women because they have achieved more than the woman. When you see an older woman, there's a tendency she'd look down on your age or money. Boils down to the issue of respect and honor. If you're sure she's going to honor you, no issue. There's also the belief that women age faster than men. When you marry someone younger, your sexual activity spans longer, there's no menopause scare. I feel those things can be worked upon.
Tolani(M)
I think so, but then again, who is he? how mature is he? what is his standing with God? I think the issue with dating older women is a thing of self consciousness for guys and how they're "supposed" to be the head of the relationship and be "the man" per se. There's also the issue of the woman that is supposed to be loved and taken care of. She might feel a bit too responsible for the guy cos she's older, but then again it all boils down to the kind of person they both are cos truly though it has been over used "age is just a number" truly in my own opinion.
Mipo (F)
It's nice to know what people think about this topic.
I'd like to know, have you been in this kind of a relationship, if you haven't, is it something you're willing to try?
Much love,
Fifi.
Time: 7:17am
Okurrr (in case you never knew, yeah, I like cardi B, she's a whole mood).
Okay, the truth is, it's not the FEVER video that got me thinking about this whole age issue in relationships. I've been thinking about it since we had rumors of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas being in a relationship. I was stunned! By the time they got engaged, and saw the pictures, I thought it was cute (she doesn't even look older. Such beauty!)
Then the FEVER video was released. It 'confirmed' what so many people had been thinking. To be honest, it's none of my business, but it really got me thinking. The video was received with a lot of umm... I wouldn't use the word hate, I'll use disgust. So many people were disgusted by the idea of Tiwa, an older woman dating Wizkid. Trust Nigerians to have really strong opinions.
I asked myself if I could date a younger man; to be honest, it never ever crossed my mind. Really. I'd always just assumed I'd be with an older man. My first official boyfriend was 7/8 years older than me,I was 17 (I didn't like it much, that was too old for me, but what could I do?) mom said I was dating my grandfather.
There are so many women that find the idea of dating younger men weird. People easily assume the guy has mommy issues especially if the man is a lot younger than the woman.
So I asked a few people, young men and women if they can be in such a relationship and why they think not so many people like the idea of younger men dating younger older women. Let's dive in. *rubs hands in excitement*
Yes of course. I think the majority of people against the idea of young men dating older women are women themselves. Not that there's really any difference but most older women tend to see age as a barrier to anything romantic.
Ayo (M)
Hmm okay, personally, I can date a younger man as long as he’s mature and has common sense. Well, it depends on what “older woman” is. Not like a twenty one year old guy dating a sixty year old woman, that one is outrageous. People might not like the idea because of public acceptance, parent acceptance, and then the particular persons mindset about it.
Tiwa (F)
Yes I can. It actually depends on some factors. The most important, which is her willingness to submit to me in marriage and respect me as the Bible instructs. As regards the reason many are against it,
I believe it revolves around myths and fears. Many have just grown up with that mentality they assimilated from their immediate environment that your wife must be younger. Some have the fear that no matter how gentle the lady is, at some point, that age factor might make her wanna disrespect or not submit to her husband (which is true in some cases). I have however seen a beautiful marriage where the wife is older and many didn't even know until they said it at an event. The man loved his wife so much, and the wife respected him and deferred to him. For much older women, there's the fear of menopause.
Paul (M)
Yes I can, maximum, 2 years difference. I think it's a matter of choice and taste.
Ore (F)
Yes, I can. I think the reason why a lot of people don't want to date older women is the issue of respect, because one if the things that's important to a man is respect. Stripping a man off if his respect is tantamount to raping a man. Some men go for younger women because they have achieved more than the woman. When you see an older woman, there's a tendency she'd look down on your age or money. Boils down to the issue of respect and honor. If you're sure she's going to honor you, no issue. There's also the belief that women age faster than men. When you marry someone younger, your sexual activity spans longer, there's no menopause scare. I feel those things can be worked upon.
Tolani(M)
I think so, but then again, who is he? how mature is he? what is his standing with God? I think the issue with dating older women is a thing of self consciousness for guys and how they're "supposed" to be the head of the relationship and be "the man" per se. There's also the issue of the woman that is supposed to be loved and taken care of. She might feel a bit too responsible for the guy cos she's older, but then again it all boils down to the kind of person they both are cos truly though it has been over used "age is just a number" truly in my own opinion.
Mipo (F)
It's nice to know what people think about this topic.
I'd like to know, have you been in this kind of a relationship, if you haven't, is it something you're willing to try?
Much love,
Fifi.
Age matters as much as people differ in relationships. It doesn't matter to me. And I don't think the Fever video confirms anything.
ReplyDeleteHmmn , yeah, I understand you. Oh yeah, it's why confirms is in quotes. I personally don't think it confirms anything.
DeleteI think the main reason for the disgust of the FEVER video is not about age but class.
ReplyDeletePersonally i can date a younger guy if he complements me well...Heck age is nothing but a number, i could even marry a 70 year old man, if i am 23.
Hmmn I didn't think about that. I guess age might be just a number, after all being older doesn't necessarily mean one is mature.
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